Katherine and I were chatting about how it’s easy to want that egoless, boundaryless, total fantasy-like connection with your spouse (or boyfriend or partner, whatever). And then we followed up with reasons why this desire is absolutely impossible and unrealistic and destructively persistent.
About Relapse, Trauma, & Outside Help
Air Hunger is a Thing
Tampax Lied. Your Life Is Over.
I’m 12 Pounds Overweight & Not Famous
Sparkling Results - The Art of Pretending You Don’t Hate Yourself
Sometimes, when I feel like a black cloud of disgust, I trick myself into dressing like an adult instead of hiding in oversized sweatshirts and pants from Walmart by asking: What would someone with an overgrown self-esteem do? This forces me to blow dry my hair, put on mascara, and floss. Surprisingly, when I don’t dress like person experiencing homelessness, I tend to feel a little more “sparkly.”
Enjoy the Freedom of Being Totally Insignificant - My Current Conception of “God”
The Tao Te Ching - as translated by Stephen Mitchell - truly brought me home. It gave me a foundation upon which to heal from past spiritual abuse. When I use the term God today, I am not referring to an anthropomorphic power or personified diety. I am referring to the egoless Life Force that glows from within each of us, but is also beyond all of us.
A Gratitude Deficiency - What it's Like Being the Laziest Woman in the World
Oops - That One Time I Accidentally Ruined My Life
Spiritual Vanity - A Guide for Seriously Uncool People
I have this automatic fantasy that tricks me into thinking I can be more pure, more clean, or more "spiritual" if I do or don't do certain things...if my body looks or doesn't look a certain way. In these moments, it never occurs to me that I am seeking self-acceptance, a sense of Ok-ness, an inner-knowing that I'm one with the Universe. I don't know how "personal growth" and "vainly enhancing my image" get mixed up for me.
I am Rachel, Sunrise Mountain Lion.
"Not-measuring-up" is one of my specialties. What I'm not good at is accepting my humanity and life's realities without truck-loads of abusive mental commentary. Because of this, I am practicing not having a perfect body, perfect sobriety, perfect spirituality, perfect image, or painless experience...and liking it.